Guest lists
Recently, one of my former high school classmates got back in touch with me via Friendster, and we met up for dinner. I hadn't seen her for 12 years and was a bit worried that we wouldn't have anything in common anymore! All I remember from that time is giggling over crushes on guys and passing notes in class.
It was difficult to compress 12 years' worth of catching up into a few hours. I realised that nothing very major has happened in my life, but it's the minor things that have added up and shaped me into the person I have become. If you ask me to describe these things, however, I can't even remember half of them!
Anyway, so I came back and was telling my housemate Emmy about the meet-up. It was significant coz the number of high school friends I'm still in contact with could fit onto the fingers of one hand. I'm very different from Blink, who continues to keep in touch with a lot of friends from our hometown. In fact, at his wedding, a fair number of hometown friends showed up to celebrate and congratulate him.
Naturally, this train of thought led me to wonder whom I would invite to my own wedding, if and when I should marry -- all the more so since I had just been a bridesmaid at my friend Janelle's wedding. I don't know how many people Janelle invited to hers, but Blink had 36 tables in Penang and 29 tables here for the dinner banquets (Penang for Chen May's relatives & friends, KL for his relatives & friends). At 10 people to a table, that makes a total of 650 guests -- which is crazy, if you ask me!
It occurs to me that apart from relatives, probably the largest other group at my wedding would consist of fellow bloggers! I'd only have a handful of hometown friends to invite, since I've lost touch with most of them, then there are my former housemates, and a bunch of friends from my former college's Christian Fellowship group. I don't keep in touch with most of my former colleagues from the newspaper, neither have I maintained ties with people from any of the churches I've been in -- and I'm not active in my current church so I hardly know anyone there.
Emmy laughed and said that my wedding would be like a bloggers' gathering. Gosh. I don't know whether that is cool or pathetic! She said it's cool coz my online friendships have transitioned and gelled into "real life" friendships. But can you imagine -- if not for blogs, I'd have hardly anybody to invite... how sad is that??