Further thoughts
This is a reply to Dabido's comment... it got so long, I decided to plonk it out here :P
Well... in the parable of the talents, the master said that at least the servant could have dumped the money in the bank and let the thing earn interest. It wasn't about results, it was about using wisely what you've been given. Laodicean church was about the state of their hearts. Deeds alone wouldn't have made them lukewarm, since God said to the church in Sardis, "I know your deeds; you have a reputation of being alive, but you are dead"!
Moving on to results: sure, a family should produce well-adjusted future Christians, but I don't think anybody marries and starts a family thinking, "I am doing this to produce well-adjusted future Christians." It is something we do, but it is not the focus nor is it the over-arching goal.
Likewise, you don't walk around thinking, "I have to love people. I have to love God with all my heart and mind and soul." No, it's a principle you live by, something you internalise that becomes part of who you are. It's not a goal to work towards and it isn't a result that you try to achieve. It's a state of being. And, like I said, results will flow from the state of being.
So as a child in a family, you pick things up along the way (like learning to share toys, etc.). But it is a result of the family relationships and the dynamics, ie. it flows from a state of being.You are my child, I love you, so I teach you what you need to know. You are my parent, I love you and trust you (and am scared of getting scolded!), so I listen to what you say and learn to act accordingly.
We should never go after results just for the sake of getting results, which is what I see happening in some churches now. When you help a juvenile offender, it's not about the result (getting him back on the straight and narrow) but about him. You want to help HIM. It's about the person, it's about caring, and so it flows from a state of being. See what I mean?
Sure, in the end, everybody has goals, or we'd be drifting aimlessly through life. But where do these goals come from? They're birthed from who we are, the value system we have, the things we think are important or necessary in life. They come from a state of being. And the results we eventually achieve also flow from this same state of being.