Virginity is not a criterion
I think Charmaine is so brave for openly stating she wants a guy who's a virgin. I'm sure I've never actually heard any woman say that before. In this day and age, say something like that, and most people tend to scoff. A virgin guy? In his 20s or 30s? Come on...
But they do exist, I'm sure ;)
I do know guys who don't subscribe to pre-marital sex -- or even pre-marital fooling around, for that matter. (You can be a virgin in the technical sense of the word, but a non-virgin in every other sense, y'know.) Of course I also know guys who don't think it's a big deal to make love with the person you love, never mind whether or not you are married to each other first. Then there are the guys who don't give a jot about love, they're just out for a spot of fun with an enthusiastic partner.
Pretty much the same goes for girls. I don't expect everyone to hold to the same values and standards I have; in some circles, I know I'm considered old-fashioned and too strait-laced :P Sometimes I do meet girls who are sooooooo at the opposite end of the spectrum from me and then it jolts me to realise how sheltered I am, since most of my closer friends and I do share similar points of view with regard to this whole sex thing.
I remember, at 16, having a classmate tell me that she'd "done it" with her boyfriend. Realising I would never be able to talk about this with some of my other friends, I asked, "How was it?"
Later I wondered if I should have been more... err... neutral, or if it might have seemed as if I was egging her on. But then I figured she already knew me and knew where I stood on the whole subject, so she would know that I personally disagreed with her actions on principle. There was no point in coming over all shocked and disapproving. What would that achieve?
To get back to the subject, though, of wanting a virgin guy -- well... as a Christian, I feel that nothing and no one is ever irredeemable. Nobody comes without a past, whether or not that past includes sexual encounters. What matters is how we're living now, and how we intend to live in future.
Brave words, eh? I do feel that I can't hold a guy's past against him, especially if he's changed his ways and has done his best to leave that past behind. The Bible says one who repents and chooses to walk in God's ways is "a new creation" -- " the old has gone, the new has come!" proclaimed Apostle Paul.
God erases our pasts: all the things we've done wrong, regret, or are ashamed of. Problem with us is that we have this trouble forgetting. I remember MY past; and sure as heck remember other people's pasts too (occasionally with malicious glee, I confess). I don't need a virgin guy, I need a guy who'll love me despite knowing who & what I am, all the things I've done... and I'll need to learn to love him the same way too. In the end, that's the REAL challenge: to love each other the way God loves us, and to encourage one another to be come the people God made us to be.