Obsessions
I was talking to a friend a few days ago and she said she's come to the point where she doesn't even want to talk about love and relationships anymore. I know the feeling. I mean, among singles (especially single ladies) that seems to be the main topic of discussion these days: Do you have a boyfriend yet? What are you looking for in a partner? Do such guys even exist anymore? Yadda, yadda, yadda... it's getting tiring.
I don't know whether it's our culture -- does this happen in America and the UK too? Do people keep on asking you whether you have a boyfriend yet the minute you enter college and university? Coz it's been, what, 9 years, and I'm extremely tired of the question. If I had a boyfriend I'd shout it from the rooftops, okay! Stop asking already!!
Even more irritating when you say you don't have anyone and the person refuses to believe you. "Don't bluff lah. I know you must have wan!" Sheesh. *steam coming out of ears* Talk about adding insult to injury!
Wait a minute, I didn't intend to go on a rant. Right, back to topic; my friend was saying that there's so many other things to talk about, like ministry and work (okay, maybe nobody really wants to talk about work! LOL) and... oh, I don't know. Does every conversation have to be super-serious anyway? I'm sure I talk nonsense half the time ;)
Thinking about it, yeah, sometimes it's almost as if we single people are obsessed by our singleness. It's something that's always there, at the back of our minds -- probably married people feel the same way, especially since there's no escape for them; they have to face their spouses every day! Like you're constantly aware that, hey, I'm single and alone, or, hey, there's this person in my life, I'm no longer autonomous.
But we don't need to talk about it all the time, do we? I mean, married people don't talk about their marital status and their spouses all the time!